This blog is going to be short and sweet. Two years ago, at a Christmas party, I was conversing with a friend about plans to meet up for coffee. Naturally I needed to explain my busy schedule. It was probably a winded rambling about my work, home, parenting, and personal development happenings. The following response from my friend stunned me. “I’m not that busy.” How rare to hear those words.
So unusual that it has stuck with me since that exchange. I have contemplated what it means to my happiness when I choose to continually tell others my level of busyness. There once was an era within our society, if your responsibility was cultivating land, developing a trade, or managing a home from dusk until dawn, it was not labeled a busy day. It was considered your way of life. Being “busy” ultimately seems like filling a life with things you are not that interested in doing. For me, it was scattered way of connecting with the world.
After that conversation about coffee plans, I have tried to implement new ways to respond regarding my schedule. “I’m not that busy” can feel awkward at first but what about “I’m fully immersed in doing what I love.” Or a simple “this is a full day for me” might be easier. The more I adjust my word choice the less “busy” I feel. Some days my response might still be “I have overscheduled myself this week.” Now, when I’m in that place again, I know it is time to evaluate what needs releasing from my calendar.
Maybe this is your year to be less busy. To experience more of what you enjoy with your valuable time. Try those words next time someone inquires about your happenings. Shock a few friends. Make yourself laugh. Or maybe in 2015 you ban the four-letter 'B' word altogether including anything that falls under the umbrella of unwanted obligations. To no longer resonate with the concept.
Short but sweet. Right? Thank you for your precious time reading my words. “I’m not that busy” means quickly getting back to the tangibles in our lives that we love. Happy New Year!
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