I refuse to believe in incurable diseases, but I’m starting to dread the winter. Medications did not work for me long term. So I say it’s all made up. Not a real thing. A move to Florida. More sunshine in my life. All is well.
Looking at the big picture; life is good. Today I want to tear this big picture into shreds. Claw down the framework with my fingers. Burn up the insides. Build a tent with the remaining pieces. Crawl under the tent. Hit at the ground. Cry until my body has no more tears. Then sleep until I am no longer tired.
“Seems like a dramatic reaction to the time change.” (Internal voice)
“Yes, I know.” (Internal voice)
Most likely I will stay in my bed an extra hour. Maybe read. Nothing special. Life as usual.
But it’s the usual I’m afraid of.
After living years with “depression”, the pending transition to winter months is still stirring up feelings of apprehension. It’s an old pattern that I recognize with seasonal changes. Which means the sadness could simply be due to less light in the day hours. Or one of the many other triggers I regularly discuss. Neurotransmitter imbalances stress, trapped emotions, nutritional deficiencies, sugar, hormones, metal toxicity, abusive relationships, financial fears, raising a teenager alone, being introverted, too many sitting hours, not enough exercise, too much wine, gut health, genetics, etc. etc. etc.
I have explored these many possibilities extensively. Consumed them like an all-you-can-eat buffet. It all seems delicious by appearance but many bathroom visits to follow.
Why do I still experience days that require MAGIC STRENGTH to exist outside of my personal space? I feel safety is inside my walls.
I know I’m not alone in feeling that separation. I’m also not alone in working to clear out whatever is the cause. My experiences, studies, and words are my art. When I can share something that may provide a minute of relief to someone else, my life returns. And expands. I cannot sing, paint, or draw. Or dance well… I am a connector. A connector with big dreams. I find sharing my story as one way to lift out of the sadness.
My suggestion, if you experience similar struggles with the time change or depression: take the hour this weekend and express your art. If you don’t have a creative passion, look for something new. Write down your best qualities. Play with them. Share them. Let someone else see the gifts that you hide.
Imagine this being the season we disrupt the time-change story.
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I often share how making relaxation a priority is a huge part of weight release and overall wellness. "Often" might be understating. If we have ever had a conversation, it is likely you have heard the mention of salt soaks as one of my favorite ways to de-stress. So if you have missed the news, this information is for you - including a recipe that I love for everyone!
Chia pets were sooo last century. CHIA SEEDS are the current trend Check out this quick snapshot explaining why chia seeds are something to follow.
Lack of nutrients and toxins that build up in the colon are the top contributors to obesity. Chia seeds contain needed nutrients and fiber (which helps to move toxins out the body’s elimination channels).
Even if you are a “superfood sceptic,” consider that at least one of these benefits will support maintaining your body’s healthy weight.
Which also includes proteins, magnesium, calcium, omega-3 fatty acids, and less intense food cravings.
Buying the seeds dry and mixing with water is super cheap and easy.
Following the instructions on the package: mix 2 tablespoons of chia seeds with 6 oz. of water. Let it sit for 15 minutes to gel. Then you can eat, save in the fridge for a few days, or mix with other foods and juices.
Get creative with your chia seeds. It makes a slimy gel that would be fun to add to you Halloween Party Punch. And it helps with a candy hangover.
Organic, non-GMO chia seeds can be found in natural food stores and online.
Do you have a super story about chia seeds? I would love you to share as a comment below.
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It is a physiological fact that the stomach requires hydrochloric acid to break down consumed foods. Hydrochloric acid is also needed to destroy bacteria, parasites, viruses, and worms.
An antacid simply by its name is telling that it goes against necessary digestive function. ANTI-ACID.
We also know that as the human body ages, the production of stomach acid declines.
When one combines declining hydrochloric acid production with something designed to neutralize whatever acid is there, it is like doubling up on one side of a scale.
Reduction in acid production + an antacid = a heavy burden for the rest of your life
Without something to break down food in the mix, there is no balance. Now the road to true health recovery has double the work.
Antacid heartburn re-lie-f is RE-ally a LIE.
Let me explain further.
Products designed to “prevent” acid indigestion will lower the levels of digestive acids. With a reduction of hydrochloric acid in the stomach germs and viruses will begin to throw a party in the intestinal system. Imagine how the word spreads among unsupervised youth when adult supervision is absent. It is a “my parents are out of town” gathering where everything gets out of control. The bacteria Helicobacter pylori (H. pylori) which is known to cause ulcers is also welcome to stay with the absence of hydrochloric acid. (Reminder, consuming antacids reduces the needed acid).
Consider all the long-term implications of free-flowing viruses, bacteria, parasites, and worms, and germs in the intestinal tract with the use of antacids.
Often the reason someone experiences what we call indigestion is because his or her consumed food is not breaking down within the optimal digestive cycle. There is an extended life of low-acid and undigested food that will cause uncomfortable feelings day and night.
When there are not enough live components to a meal (enzymes) and acid levels are low (and made even lower by antacids) the digestive problems one might experience will increase over time.
Overeating, over-cooked food, high consumption of sugars, caffeine, alcohol, tobacco, meats and dairy products can all contribute to indigestion. High stress levels when eating, and other body imbalances are also factors in declined acid production.
There are ways to test your stomach acid production. If experiencing indigestion after a meal, drink one tablespoon of Apple Cider Vinegar. If this brings some relief, you may have low levels of hydrochloric acid. Another test is to mix 6 oz. of water and ¼ teaspoon of baking soda. Wait for a burp/belch. If nothing happens within 5 minutes, this is another indicator of low acid.
What does one do to break the ANTI-ACID cycle and return to balance? Your solution is likely to include some or all of the following:
Taking the time to chew your food.
Have designated meal routines that do not involve attempts at multi-tasking. (Multitasking does not work well either for non-meal times).
Aloe Vera juice or herbals such as chamomile, comfrey, and peppermint.
Begin each meal with live food or juice to stimulate digestion. Try ginger, endive, watercress, celery, and carrots.
Take quality digestive enzymes with each meal to assist the digestive process.
Work with a digestive specialist to find the cause and individual solutions. Professional guidance is crucial if you are dealing with chronic indigestion or digestive upsets. If you make any nutritional or lifestyle changes, it is necessary to discuss with your medical care professional as well. Indigestion can also be a symptom of ulcers, hernias, or other significant health circumstances that need to be evaluated.
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I hand wrote most of this in a notebook earlier today. I urgently knew the words needed to get out. Then when I finished writing my enthusiasm wavered and I moved on to other to-dos. Stashing the notebook away in my closet. Likely to end up in my paper shredding pile on another day. Not sharing with anyone else felt safer.
There are a few people that know most of this story. There are several others I’ve recently started sharing more with. In bits and pieces. Mostly though, I cringe to even think about discussing the ‘D’ word of my past. Even though for two decades it danced with my emotions. And for an entire decade it was embedded with each inhale breath I took. And not going out with the exhale. It was suffocating me.
I feel my body tense up each time I have ever spoken out loud, “I’ve had depression.” Even when I discuss this with the closest of friends, I consider they will not fully understand my experience. I wonder what they think about my stories. Will they begin to see me as a weak person?
I don’t like to talk about depression with anyone or give it extra attention. I feel like the label grows the more the word is used. Thinking maybe if I don’t speak of it then it wasn’t real. It cannot return. If I just focus on happy things then never again will that sweeping darkness show back up.
That was always my wish during any period of time when I started to believe things were going well. Trying to enjoy the positive happenings. Laughing if I didn’t shower ‘just because’ and not for the lack of interest in self-care. If I didn’t say I had depression, then I could continue to get out of bed. I could leave my room. Not hide in my closet. I could get my son to school. I could show up at my job. I could survive a morning without public tears. I wouldn’t unwillingly surrender in another doctor’s office. Or begin another prescription with unfavorable side effects because I didn’t know what else would help me continue to exist. Or trying to decide which friend would be least bothered by my latest breakdown when I knew I needed to reach out.
Who the fuck wants to feel needy and vulnerable? To ask for help when it requires revealing your truth? I didn’t. But I didn’t know how to get out. Or where to reach out. I only wanted to hide. Everything that was dark inside me was keeping me comfortable in the darkness. I needed light. I wanted all the sick places inside me to be ripped out. I wanted to scream “this isn’t me.” I’m not that word.
D-E-P-R-E-S-S-I-O-N. Deep oppression is what it felt like. And I am grateful that is no longer an influential part of my everyday life anymore. I learned that there were processes going on in my body that needed balance that wasn’t being fully corrected by any one specific medication. My body was nutritionally deficient in certain areas. I needed more healthy fats in my diet. I found that fish & flax oils, high doses of quality vitamin C and a good B-complex were essential in my daily routine. I benefited from various simple detoxes to clean up my organ and digestive functions. I learned that sugar and alcohol were never good roommates, and we were better as long distance friends. I also sought out emotional clearing work that helped me release negative energies and patterns that were stuck in my body. I made stress reduction a priority. Salt soaks, yoga, & walks outside are now a regular part of my routine.
There are still moments of yuck that creep in on occasion. Triggering fears of a potential return to that dark place. I have sunk back into lows after feeling good for a while. Each time though I’m a little more prepared. I have a better understanding of what is going on with my body. The stresses or imbalances might be triggering the latest emotional uncertainty. It’s enough in my past that when I wrote about this experience earlier I did not know I was going to be pulled so strongly into getting this out to others. I don’t like to discuss the ‘D’ word of my past, but I have noticed several brave people over the last week sharing about their experience. I get that others benefit from this identifier because it provides a unified place to speak about emotional struggle. That is why I could not leave my ramblings in a notebook. I needed to share my healing from depression.
I know someone else may need that same return to peace. But haven’t figured out another word to use and still support others who need to reach out. Is there another word? Is there another way for those who are in that sinking darkness can heal? I believe if we continue connecting then maybe it won’t matter that there was once a label. That the next day’s light is happiness. Please reach out. Even if you cannot speak your story, there is someone who cares. Connect.
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This blog is going to be short and sweet. Two years ago, at a Christmas party, I was conversing with a friend about plans to meet up for coffee. Naturally I needed to explain my busy schedule. It was probably a winded rambling about my work, home, parenting, and personal development happenings. The following response from my friend stunned me. “I’m not that busy.” How rare to hear those words.
So unusual that it has stuck with me since that exchange. I have contemplated what it means to my happiness when I choose to continually tell others my level of busyness. There once was an era within our society, if your responsibility was cultivating land, developing a trade, or managing a home from dusk until dawn, it was not labeled a busy day. It was considered your way of life. Being “busy” ultimately seems like filling a life with things you are not that interested in doing. For me, it was scattered way of connecting with the world.
After that conversation about coffee plans, I have tried to implement new ways to respond regarding my schedule. “I’m not that busy” can feel awkward at first but what about “I’m fully immersed in doing what I love.” Or a simple “this is a full day for me” might be easier. The more I adjust my word choice the less “busy” I feel. Some days my response might still be “I have overscheduled myself this week.” Now, when I’m in that place again, I know it is time to evaluate what needs releasing from my calendar.
Maybe this is your year to be less busy. To experience more of what you enjoy with your valuable time. Try those words next time someone inquires about your happenings. Shock a few friends. Make yourself laugh. Or maybe in 2015 you ban the four-letter 'B' word altogether including anything that falls under the umbrella of unwanted obligations. To no longer resonate with the concept.
Short but sweet. Right? Thank you for your precious time reading my words. “I’m not that busy” means quickly getting back to the tangibles in our lives that we love. Happy New Year!
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It has been three years since my grandmother’s death, and this time of year is filled with memories of our time spent together. I grew up with my grandmother living close to me and was greatly blessed by her giving heart. Everyone knew her as “The Card Lady.” Her gift to the world was sending notes, cards, and letters to anyone who needed to know someone was thinking about them. Throughout my life, I was the recipient of hundreds of her typed letters or handwritten notes. My Grams taught me the impact of written words. All her mailings went out with love, and a prayer was always included prior to postage. Inspiration was delivered.
Since I’ve learned about Melisa Caprio’s Postcards to the Universe project, I have had feelings of nostalgia about my grandmother. Melisa takes professional pictures of postcards that individuals have created and written to the “Universe” for a manifestation request. Whether someone is sending a birthday wish, prayer request or a yogic intention, when they create a Postcard to the Universe they are opening up to receive blessings and dream to reality experiences. This experience provides an expanded support system that my Grandmother used daily to uplift her family, friends, and strangers as well.
Here is Melisa’s story of how she created her project Postcards to the Universe book and project….
In a period of 3 months, my life changed. I lost my marriage, the best job in the world, my job photographing dolphins and children and my home. It sent me straight into a major depression and sadness. I was lucky enough to be able to move in and stay with my family. During that first year, I don’t think I did much of anything but cry and rage. During this difficult period is when I went inward as we usually do when hit with a major life change. I discovered many transformational teachers, spiritualists, and authors. It opened me up to new ways of thought and new ideas that I would never have plunged into if it weren’t for what happened. It caused me to start praying, journaling and receive coaching. I delved into these books about grief, forgiveness, spirituality and transformation. It along with my beloved books was the only thing that kept me going for a while. This was when I discovered the law of attraction and manifestation. The idea that I attracted these things to me and I was somehow accountable for what happened was a total mind blow. I thought no way; I would never have attracted that. But as I went deeper inside I realized that energetically I did attract these things.
The law of attraction is not about attracting what we want, because who would want to bring about things that are painful? It’s about what we believe. It’s tricky and complex on how it works, and we carry many beliefs inside. On the one hand, I always believed I was meant to do some big things with my life. So the life I was living before was not supporting that idea. The Universe then forced a major life change to cause me to re-evaluate. I also had a belief that my needs were not as important in a relationship as my partners, so of course I attracted someone who obviously believed it too and mirrored that back. Put these different beliefs together, and it made up the perfect storm, which caused the perfect breakdown which in turn has created the perfect re-birth.
Fast forward a few years and in the middle of the night between wake and sleep I heard very clearly “Postcards to the Universe.” I had no idea what it meant, but it felt very significant and divinely given so I got up, went online and bought the domain name. I then went to sleep and left it for a while. I have always been fascinated with people’s handwriting and photographing love letters especially since handwritten notes is becoming a lost art. They are so lovely and personal, and I believe when someone takes the time to actually write, their energy really is infused into the letter or note. I started thinking how great it would be to photograph people’s desires and wishes for Postcards. I still had no idea on how it would look at the time.
A short time later I started taking a law of attraction course along with someone who was a web designer and they helped inspired me to finally bring my Postcards to the Universe project to fruition and create a website. There are no coincidences by the way. It has been slow and steady ever since. Something just so happens to come along or catch my attention that supports my Postcard project. The only thing that seems to stop is when fear takes over and I stop moving forward. The Universe patiently waits for me to work out whatever I need to and get back on and moving again. Someone shows up to support what I am doing and off we go. That’s how I have been interviewed on two radio shows, and my project has been featured in print many times. I am also now giving workshops leading people on creating their own unique postcards using art and photography.
I am asking people to send me a postcard with their greatest vision for their life. Whatever they want to manifest or desire for themselves. They can come to my site and use one of my images that resonate if they choose or better yet I am asking them to CREATE their own postcard. I believe it is much more POWERFUL if someone takes the time to create something unique and send it out. I am excited to say more and more people are creating and sending me their unique postcards. I absolutely love them!
I am in process of writing my first book Postcards to the Universe, A Global Movement for Manifestation.
Postcards to the Universe, A Global Movement for Manifestation is not just a beautiful fine art book but an ongoing project and movement. Postcards empowers people to get clear and creative about living a life that is inspired and fulfilled. It shows the reader through art and photography people’s desires and wishes for their life. I photograph each postcard as I receive them. I intuit by each person’s specific manifestation on how I am going to photograph their postcard. The reason this book is so unique is because it is a collaboration. I get inspired by helping people get creative and those who want to co-create with me to push this movement forward. I ask the Universe to send me other people’s desires, wishes, and manifestations. It is received by those people who are looking to live their greatest life. I am turning them it into a beautiful art book featuring these postcards. Each postcard has been transformed into its own powerful, collaborative intention.
This is an ongoing movement and the potential for growth is unlimited. As long as there are souls who wish to manifest and artists who wish to create. This book and project are manifestation and the law of attraction taken to a new level. It is visual, textual, conceptual desires and wishes infused with the energy and spirit of the collaborators and contributors of this project and book.
I would love it if you took the time to participate with me in this movement and submit a postcard. You could use one of mine from my site…just download, print, write your manifestation and send…. or better yet, CREATE your own for a powerful effect!!
Thank you, much love.
Earlier this week I was craving a brothy soup and dark chocolate covered ginger. Amazingly enough I was able to find both those things at my local Whole Foods. That store is absolutely one of my favorite things about where I live. And that's not just because I know some of the sweetest people EVER that work for Whole Foods. Even the employees I don't already know are always friendly. They are super helpful. They smile often. They say thank you. It's kind of a magical place.
Not only can I find really unique treats in Whole Foods but I actually love how I can go there and easily know what I am buying and where my food is coming from. The store identifies and supports local products which is important when deciding how to spend my money. And since the word "natural" on a label is a marketing tool (and not truth) I like being able to choose food that is verified organic and NON-GMO. Eating organic is important so I'm not ingesting a bunch of immune depleting toxic pesticides. NON-GMO is even more crucial because my body wasn't designed to digest or benefit from a scientifically engineered substance that is not actually food.
Since Whole Foods Market is a super fun place for me it's also incredibly easy for me to over spend every time I visit. I am aware that a lot of people feel the same and there have been arguments made about over-priced products sold by the company. Maybe so. Although they do offer weekly specials, an in-store booklet or online coupons (look up Whole Foods, The Whole Deal) and in my local WFM you can choose a sampling of four salads for $4 which is very filling. Several items can be purchased in bulk which is another way to keep down total dollars spent.
As much as I love shopping in Whole Foods, it still isn't possible for me to purchase everything there. I have a growing teenage son!! To best manage my finances for our family it just makes sense for me find healthy &affordable options in other ways. I really love non-chemical soaps and cleaning products. But I've learned to make my own laundry-detergent, shampoo (which is really just baking soda + water), and cleaning solution for my sinks and toilets. Things like this can be done with borax, lemons, and vinegar. All of which are super cheap. Sometimes I just look at that store like a giant Pinterest board. Love all their offerings but I cannot buy everything on display!
One more wonderful thing about Whole Foods is they often have organic produce you just cannot find anywhere else. Sometimes it's amazing how difficult it can be to simply find an organic green apple. It can be more affordable to buy local at a farmers market but even then organic choices can be limited. One of my friends has started buying a CSA (Community Supported Agriculture) basket through the Nashville Farmers' Market. Even there she was only able to find one co-op that offered all organic. For a lot of people it can be challenging to find and buy actual whole foods.
I also think the value and awareness Whole Foods Market has brought to consumers is really cool. Other grocery stores like Kroger and Publix have expanded their offerings of organic items so that they can compete with the demand brought to our attention by Whole Foods. I think more people should be asking what value they are actually getting for the items they are buying in other stores. Why does a store that offers organic and less processed foods have so little major competition? Why is this not the norm everywhere?
If you are purchasing a sugar filled cereal that is "vitamin-fortified" you will actually end up depleting nutrients from your body just to process. Minerals in our body are often depleted in order to digest foods containing excessive sugar and the added synthetic vitamins are rarely transformed into a beneficial reserve for your body. Not to mention weight gain, energy depletion, and all the other chronic conditions that appears when we fill up with non-food "foods." So in reality, spending money for something labeled as a food without nutritional benefit, is actually over-priced selling. It is happening in grocery stores all across America. This leaves me wanting to say, “Thank you Whole Foods! Let's do lunch sometime."
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